My boyfriend and I were together for over three years, and then we weren’t. The days after the breakup involved lots of crying, and an embarrassing amount of Taylor Swift.
A couple of weeks later, once I was able to will myself out of sweatpants, my friend Eric — who was also coping with a breakup — came over for some IPAs and, of course, Taylor Swift singalongs.
We commiserated about how much life sucked, how lonely we felt and how we were losing sleep. We discussed what was wrong in each of our relationships and what was right.
“I hope talking about this so much isn’t bringing you down,” I told Eric.
“No, this actually really helps,” he said.
It turns out we were on to something. Last week I came across an intriguing bit of research in the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science. While too much wallowing after heartbreak isn’t a great idea, the study found that reflecting on a recent breakup can help speed the healing process.