OK, let’s do this.
My white male friend, you might actually believe in your heart that you are not racist. You might actually believe that this country is full of equality and justice, and get offended at the idea that it’s not, so this might be really difficult for you. …
That is what I’m inviting you to do here — open yourself up, compassionately expand your frame of reference. …
I’d like to invite a thought exercise.
Your child comes to you and says, “Dad, I’m being harassed, bullied, threatened and terrorized at school.”
And you say, “That is impossible. You go to a good school. All the adults I know say it is a good school, so you must be fine. Go back out there.”
And you walk away, convinced that your child must be wrong. You’ve abandoned your child, because you’re not taking his or her report as possibly accurate.
Your wife or sister comes to you and says, “I am being harassed, threatened and terrorized out on the street by men. I experience gender inequality on a daily basis. I live in some degree of constant fear for my personal safety, just because I am a woman.”
And you say, “That is impossible. Sexism is over. Women now occupy relatively high places of power in this country. You are fine.”